- Posted by Jon Loudon
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It happens more often than people like to admit. The baby comes along, and both partners are so busy trying to adjust to the new routine that neither has the energy for sex. The more kids you have, the more you risk a sexless marriage. It doesn’t have to be that way. Parenting adds another dimension to who you are as both individuals and a couple, but this is an added dimension, it is not a replacement. You are still the same individuals who love and desire each other. You just need something to spice up your marriage and allow you to realize this.
Bringing Back the Sizzle
Most times, bringing the sizzle back to a sexless marriage after kids is simply a matter of putting in a little extra effort and maybe adding some new things to your bedroom. Here are a few hints to get you started.
1. Make Time
Sex used to happen spontaneously, but with little ones around, that can be hampered. Set aside at least one evening a week, or maybe even an afternoon, and have a sitter keep an eye on the kids. Turn off your phones and just enjoy each other’s company.
2. Add a Little Extra
If you haven’t tried adult toys in the past, this is the perfect time to explore. Make the decision together to agree on something you both feel comfortable using and go for it. The trick to this working is to decide as a couple and make pleasure for both of you the goal.
If role-play isn’t something either of you is interested in, consider some new sexy lingerie. Remind each other how sexy you both are by choosing something that shows off your most significant assets. Lingerie isn’t just for women; men have many choices also. Shop together so you can decide on items that will please you both.
4. Physical Comfort
Having a baby changes a woman’s hormones for a time, and she may find that sex is uncomfortable, especially if she feels dry. Choose a lubricant and make use of it. You could try a plain one that would not be noticeable, or maybe one of the flavored ones would capture your interest.
Making an effort to schedule some time just for the two of you and adding a little novelty into the picture will go a long way toward reminding each other just why you fell in love in the first place.
We Can Help
Stop in at The Sexy Box with your partner and look around. It is time to again make sex a priority in your life. We have locations in Miami and Hialeah, and an online store for you to explore. Spice up your marriage tonight!