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Foreplay is an extremely important part of the sexual life of couples. Granted, an occasional “quickie” has its place and can be satisfying, but no relationship can function indefinitely without the anticipation and stimulation that accompanies foreplay.
What Exactly is Foreplay
Foreplay is more than passionate kissing, hugging and a brief fondling of intimate parts. It is a combination of mental and physical stimulation that leads to anticipation and can turn the erotic mood from zero to a hundred when done correctly. For women, an appropriate amount of foreplay is usually necessary to allow her time to become lubricated enough for both partners to enjoy the actual sex act itself. Foreplay sends a signal to the body that you are desirable, and it makes you anticipate even deeper stimulation. It is a tease, a promise, and a physical appetizer.
Why Foreplay is Important
Foreplay is essential for both emotional and physical enjoyment to be at its peak. Physically, it helps men gain a harder erection, and it causes a woman to become lubricated enough to allow easier penetration. Psychologically, foreplay sends the message to your partner that you care about their needs and not just your own. You send the message that they are desirable and that you are interested in more than a generic body part. It says: I want YOU!
Incorporating the use of items and toys into your foreplay can add another level of stimulation to the act. It can help both partners explore things they have never experienced, help foster communication and ultimately bring partners together in a way neither have experienced with each other or other partners. Try:
- Using feathers to lightly tickle erogenous areas. Try different pressure and different places, allowing the feather to explore areas before your fingers or lips.
- For those interested, a light spanking with a whip can get the blood flowing.
- Star the evening with a sensual tantric massage. Find a sweet-smelling oil and take your time. Start at the shoulders and work your way down.
- Use a gentle vibrator to discover the exact amount of pressure and type of speed your partner enjoys, and where they enjoy being touched. You may be surprised at areas you never thought of as being part of the stimulating act.
Let Your Imagination Soar
There are no steadfast “rules” on how to go about foreplay. The only thing to keep in mind is to communicate with each other and be willing to explore the possibilities. To find out what toys might help you explore new avenues, stop by one of our locations or contact The Sexy Box online to see what we have to offer.